So far in this series we have discussed learning to hear the sound of ourselves. We are reminded to be quiet and listen. Next, we mapped out our transition. We laid out some foundational steps on how to do this.
This was a toss-up between what was next: Letting Go or Making a Move. I decided to go with Letting Go before Making a Move because sometimes we just can’t make a move, even though we have a map and a game plan, we are still clinging to someone or something and are in quicksand.
Letting Go of our past, mistakes, someone who no longer has the right to be there, or a job has to happen before we can transition. Not letting go steals valuable time, energy, and mental stamina from us. I’m learning to let go of some things that are sucking my time from me. They are good things. It is a seesaw of emotions for me. It is good for me to walk away and to lean into new adventures!
As we learn to let go, we find we are more present in our reality and not in a brain fog, we see a shift happen. This shift is imperative if we are going to get past the junk.
Here are a few questions to ask yourself in the letting go step:
Are you ready to let go? If the answer is yes, then the next step is pure courage and risk. You have decided to leave behind what is no longer working for you.
What are your steps for letting go? (This is another mental exercise with your coach or counselor)
How will you overcome the obstacles that challenge your letting go? You have to prepare how you will handle the unexpected obstacle. If you don’t mentally take note of them, they will leave you right where you are.
Please do not think that letting go just “happens”. It takes time and it’s HARD! The important thing is you have decided that this is no longer working for you and you are taking that imperative first step which is a mental shift that will lead you down the path to your freedom.
First, I want you to begin to expect the best possible outcome. Here’s why: If we don’t have the expectation, then we stay stuck because our belief system is still in the muck. What do those expectations look like? Write them down, glue them to a wall, or tattoo them on your arm. Expecting leads to a mental shift to know it is now time to let go. You see when I pray I expect God to answer. He has always answered. If that expectation wasn’t there, then I have no hope.
Second, above all else, I want you to be kind to yourself. Turn off the noise and don’t listen to the voice which always has a negative reminder, “Who do you think you are?” You can talk yourself out of anything, but I want you to now talk yourself into something that is healthy and rewarding!
Finally, the last thing I want you to have is resolve that life doesn’t have to be redundant. You have the choice to build a life, regardless of the transition, that is beautiful and fulfilling. Sometimes a transition is the only way to get us to move out of the box we’ve built around ourselves.
Letting go is the hardest thing we will ever do. It is painful and terrifying! It is beautiful and exhilarating! All of these emotions are essential to letting go. Let go of what you think needs to happen and trust in the process and how God changes your perspective. After all, any transition is always a letting go shift we need to make.
As always, if you find yourself in a transition and need some coaching, please reach out on any of my social media or my website. I would love to come alongside you and walk with you.