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  • Writer's pictureToni Thrash

Then You Make A Move -Sounds of Transition Series

This is the final post in The Sounds of Transitions series. I have been discussing what transitions are and the 4 steps in planning how to move through one.

This final step is the most critical and hardest to implement. You must make a move. Why you ask? This is the step that requires action and it makes the transition real. The other steps are the plan to move through this and now the only two obstacles left are denial and fear.

Denial hasn't hit us yet because we've been on the shock and awe adrenaline rush trying to control what has blindsided us. Now that our steps and plan have emerged, we suddenly don't believe or comprehend this is actually happening in real time. Yet, here we are. Denial.

This is an absolutely normal phase to be in. Let me also say, you may only sit in denial for up to 24 hours. If you stay here, then the aftermath will be worse than it already is.

The other thing that deters us is fear. Denial and fear hold hands and trying to break them up is hard. Fear automatically kicks in and says, "I can't walk through this!" What if none of this works?"

I know what it is like to be scared to death and unable to make the move. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. I walked into a counseling session and told my then-husband, "I have filed for divorce." I was shaking on the inside so much, I couldn't believe the words actually came out of my mouth.

(The details are for another time. Trust me when I say, It was a long process)

I listened to me because I had not listened to myself, if ever. I mapped it out ( and it didn't go as smoothly as my map, but it went) and I let go of what I could no longer control.

Then I made the decision to make my move. Fear was whispering in my ears and nipping at my heels every single day. Every. Single. Day. I thought I would not make it through. I've learned to let fear be the losing opponent.

I'm living proof, you can make the move even when you are hesitant about the next step you mapped out. You just have to take a step. One step.

Do not let either denial or fear keep you from moving forward. You will make it through it.

It will not be easy and that first step is the hardest, but the movement in the right direction will bring a sense of relief. You are simply moving and not staying stagnant.

I would consider it an honor to walk alongside you and see you through to the other side of the transition looming large in front of you.

I've been working on something exciting for you and the final touches are being ironed out. It is a tool that will walk you through each of the steps in this series. I will be releasing it to you as a free download on May 23rd. If you haven't signed up for my newsletter, please do so and hang tight because it is going to be a game-changer for you!

I know you have a friend who is in transition…feel free to share this post. Tag me in your post!


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